I own every thing that I do. I own every sin I have ever committed. I was there and I actively chose to not resist it.
I saw my pastor tell a tale of how his wife caught him looking at porn. He looked defeated on stage, and a part of me wanted to call bullshit. Not that he wasn't caught, but that he was defeated. This man is a strong alpha type man, and rather that stand and own it, he seemed to have lost his frame. He caved into the hurt of his wife and agreed that he lost her trust. This rings false to me.
I was there for every wrong choice I've made, and I've built a foundation on my failures. They define where I've been, not where I'm going. This is how I will be different, not in arrogance (though I'm sure that's been said before) but in singularity.
The one thing I cannot stand within the culture of "the church" is the lack of responsibility. Men in the church act more like victims of sin instead of warriors against it. Every vice is an "addiction" which, once bought into, becomes a soft cop-out.
Own your shit. The Good, the Bad and the Ugly alike.
Now, move forward.